“Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” – William James
As I alluded to yesterday, I have been in conflict… with myself. I’ve been feeling bucket-loads of emotions – and I can’t even blame it on PMS!
Most of it is a general sense of fear, but of what I really don’t know. I think my mind, every now and then on the verge of empowerment, begins to churn out platitudes of negativity. I need my own cheerleader, like Rob Schneider in “Waterboy”: “You can do eet!”
I can’t believe I just brought that movie into this.
Beattie says that when you’re feeling fearful, or you’re in too deep over your head, turn all of it over to your higher power of choice. God, apparently, got the Facebook meme and is all, “Chill the fuck out; I got this.”
Still not wanting to really delve into that, I turned my focus to philosophy. I read some William James today, who proposes that we are fearful based on the emotions we feel first, and not on what we’re actually seeing (i.e., you fear a bear because of the emotions accompanying seeing a bear, not because you’re actually fearing a bear). A nice hypothesis (though incorrect), but James seems like a rational sort of fellow – one who took things he could work with and molding them instead of biting off more than he could chew.
He believes that attitude and belief change everything: They make a situation what it is. This is a good way of looking at things, I think – if you fear something, work with it until you can handle the thing you fear. Then follow on to the next step.
(Let’s start at the very beginning – it’s a very good place to start.)
Have a good night, everyone.